As you well know, name calling isn’t limited to only kids in the school yard.
On the way up the ladder you may have been called many names. My favorite has been the word ‘bitch’ although I have been called many others in 30 years (contact me for the full list 🙂 )
Even in today’s world, with women getting the vote over ninety years ago (as recently as 1940 in parts of Canada), you’ve no doubt had to work much ‘harder’ than your male counterparts and gotten pushed around more on the way up the proverbial ladder. It probably goes without saying that some men find you intense and even possibly intimidating. My rant isn’t about men or women and who owns the control….
My rant is to get over it!
Own it!
Embrace it!
If you can embrace your own “bitchiness” then no one can use it against you. Roll with the punches, be the epitome of that ‘ball-busting’ woman that your coworkers fear for making them look poorly if they aren’t juggling all the balls as gracefully as you do. You are ball busting! Make a joke of the word.
I am frequently quoted as saying about myself “Yes, I AM a Babe in Total Control of Herself (aka a B.I.T.C.H.)”. It usually gets a chuckle if nothing else and laughter is a good equalizer and diffuses tensions.
Sure they may still say things about you behind your back, but once you realize that being a B.I.T.C.H. (aka Beautiful, Intelligent, Charming, & Hellacious) makes YOU feel great, then who the hell cares if someone goes looking to take potshots as long as you get a clear runway to getting the job done well. We can’t control the whole world but we can control our inner world. Start your own lexicon – spread the word!
There are many skills it takes to grow, sustain, and build a business. Everything from marketing, mindset, and math has to be in play to make real money and a real difference. All of the education, time, and money you have put into growing your business won’t much matter if you don’t embody this – tenacity!
Never give up. Never quit.
People always want to know how I did it and what the one big shift was that happened.
It’s simple.
I didn’t stop. I didn’t stop when:
* People said No.
* I ran out of money.
* I got tired.
* I went dry creatively.
* Someone hurt my feelings.
* Someone no-showed.
* People discouraged me.
* I felt I wasn’t enough.
* I was told I wasn’t enough.
* The clients I did have left.
* No one new came.
* The car broke down.
* A family member died.
* I was confused.
* I was scared.
I didn’t stop.
The greatest business skill set you need is tenacity. All the other stuff just make this path easier. Tenacity makes the path possible. Now, here’s what you do:
* When the money runs out … Get a job! (I like to call it a business loan). Fund your dream…if you believe in it enough, find the income stream to support it.
* When people leave … Find new people! Clients leave for a reason. They are often afraid of success and some leave because they are complete. Let them go, take a breath, and ASK – find new people to share your message. Don’t stop.
* When you are scared… Go through it! The only way out is through. There is no magic pill. There is no step-by-step system for fear. When you do it it gets easier… when you build that muscle you get braver. Courage is a learned skill.
* When you get tired… Ask for help! No man is an island. I didn’t build this alone and neither can you. You need to only work in your brilliance and delegate the rest.
* When someone hurts your feelings… Remember who you are! I didn’t get in this business to make friends. I do this to make a difference. Not everyone will like me, my style, or my methods. There are other coaches for them. I know who I am.
* When you feel you aren’t enough… Know the truth. You are a child of ‘God’. You are here to let your light shine and you are enough. If you are reading this email it means you believe in possibility. Share that possibility for it is love.
Tenacity… The only business skill you ever need to know!
